Six tips for parents doing it tough since their kid left home

Some people cruise through it, some suffer in silence, some move on quickly, some do not.  Your kid leaving home is a very personal journey. I read a first-person story on line recently about a woman grieving for her grown daughter who had moved interstate, and with whom she was super close, particularly after being nursed by her for a while.  That made sense to … Continue reading Six tips for parents doing it tough since their kid left home

How useful are the ‘5 stages of grief’ when your kid leaves home?

For many, grief is keenly associated with their kid leaving home. It can take many guises, from simple sadness, maybe fleeting, to overwhelming, searing pain.  For the sufferers, when mixed with optimism and strength (underpinned with support from others), it may take on a less painful shape. For others it cuts deep, dominates and requires more work to recover from.  Whatever it looks like for … Continue reading How useful are the ‘5 stages of grief’ when your kid leaves home?

A sense of betrayal – who’d have thunk it

My daughter had the biggest room in the house. Two windows onto the garden, framing an old wooden desk from her father’s youth. Opposite, a wall of shelves groaning with fantasy fiction, dystopian futures, botanical analysis, Harper Lee and JK Rowling, maths and chem, pop ups, falling apart antique, Leunig, Sean Tan, Shakespeare.  And among this, all manner of little bits, things, images, oddities, reflective … Continue reading A sense of betrayal – who’d have thunk it

’empty nest’ without a syndrome?

A common term presides to describe our feelings when our child leaves home.  The go to  phrase ’empty nest syndrome’ falls readily from the sympathetic, knowing nod. It makes sense,  but does it fit for all? A social descriptor, rather than a clinical diagnosis, ’empty nest syndrome’ is commonly associated with feelings of sadness, loneliness or emotional stress at finding oneself childless in the home, … Continue reading ’empty nest’ without a syndrome?