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Parenting lessons I learnt tonight and wish I had learnt before my kid left home

Tonight I found out that I have really stuffed up. My new tv remote is taking a while to figure out, and tonight’s fumbling left me stranded on commercial tv. As I started to break into a cold sweat of panic, fervently stabbing at all buttons to return me from tabloid hell, I heard the tinkling joy of small child voices, and allowed myself to … Continue reading Parenting lessons I learnt tonight and wish I had learnt before my kid left home

One Year In – Reflections from a Mum whose Kid Left Home for Uni

My kid has been gone nearly a year. By my reckoning, we both got kind of used to the new way of things about six months in.  I felt she got settled then, which made me get settled then.   And my kid left two siblings behind, so I am not an empty nest candidate. But even having these two wonderful creatures still with me … Continue reading One Year In – Reflections from a Mum whose Kid Left Home for Uni

13 Survival Strategies for When Your Kid Leaves Home

Whether you’re whooping or grieving, it’s the end of an era like no other.  Whether they’ve hot footed it to Uni, or taken off for their first dose of independent living and working, here’s your guide on how to face forward and prosper (aka ‘get through’). Stage 1 – the early days Cry!  Having a sob can be a fantastic release.  Whatever emotion lies behind the … Continue reading 13 Survival Strategies for When Your Kid Leaves Home

Peace at last … Story from a (very) relieved mum.

It was great to find this honest tale in the inbox yesterday  – only relief for this UK mum who found escape from a toxic situation when her kid left home.  It’s not always doom and gloom when they go … “When my kid left home? Well, there is a story … I couldn’t wait. As simple and as harsh as that. I simply could … Continue reading Peace at last … Story from a (very) relieved mum.

Life after kids – some insights on the marriage bit

It’s been super interesting picking up the ’empty nest’ stories from the northern hemisphere of late – there it is the season of farewells – where wings are being spread in their thousands as little darlings leave for Uni. In the southern hemisphere, the build up is in full swing, for a Jan-Feb departure. I loved the insights of Sabina Zalewska, a family psychologist, in … Continue reading Life after kids – some insights on the marriage bit

“Learn to detach with love … and don’t fix their problems”

“I felt relieved when my step-child left.  It was just time. He was nearly 22. He moved to the next state, takes four hours in the car so it’s a good distance away. The advantage of him being a bit older was that he didn’t need loads of stuff buying, and we had plenty to give him.  But despite him being ready, and my relief, it … Continue reading “Learn to detach with love … and don’t fix their problems”

“Saying goodbye cuts out a little piece of your soul”

  This beautiful mamma had three sons who all chose to go to University overseas. Now that’s got to be tough? The final year with each boy was unique. They were each so ready to leave home and go start their owns lives. Most of the time I knew it was not about leaving me….or rather not in a personal “I hate you can’t wait … Continue reading “Saying goodbye cuts out a little piece of your soul”

A sense of betrayal – who’d have thunk it

My daughter had the biggest room in the house. Two windows onto the garden, framing an old wooden desk from her father’s youth. Opposite, a wall of shelves groaning with fantasy fiction, dystopian futures, botanical analysis, Harper Lee and JK Rowling, maths and chem, pop ups, falling apart antique, Leunig, Sean Tan, Shakespeare.  And among this, all manner of little bits, things, images, oddities, reflective … Continue reading A sense of betrayal – who’d have thunk it

My kid left for Uni, and it’s quite a time

What’s that movie when the two guys set off for Vegas for a weekend of debauchery, whooping, music blaring, and the next scene they are silent and contemplative, only five minutes in?  It’s very funny and reminds me of taking off for Uni several decades ago. My mum behind the wheel, car bleeding bed linen, LPs, and crockery, three hours to my new life.  As … Continue reading My kid left for Uni, and it’s quite a time